disconnected.

What do you do while eat­ing?

Sit down with your plate on your table, smell and taste all the nuances of your food, take one bite at a time, chew slow­ly and real­ly enjoy this whole process?

Yea right.

Thank god we have so many dis­trac­tions handy so we don´t actu­al­ly have to go through that.

Our brain doesn´t want to sit still and basi­cal­ly do noth­ing.
— Espe­cial­ly when it´s used to get fed by con­stant stim­u­lus through our mobile devices…all the time.

Even while eat­ing. Even dur­ing a cof­fee date with a friend (which is more than sad). But even sit­ting in the train and sim­ply look­ing out­side the win­dow (or read­ing a book god for­bid!), is smth you hard­ly see any­more.

This past week­end my lit­tle cousin who´s 16 years old (and has no social media by choice) told me how he has dif­fi­cul­ty inter­act­ing with his school­mates or peo­ple his age in gen­er­al.
They are CONSTANTLY on their phone he said and it seems that he´s bestfriend´s girl­friend has a deep­er rela­tion­ship with her insta­gram account than with the guy she´s with.

I think we real­ly under­es­ti­mate how teens nowa­days are effect­ed by these tech­no­log­i­cal changes, par­tic­u­lar­ly in the past decade.

But we all can relate to some degree…

A time gap in your day?
You reach to your phone.

Don´t wan­na deal with your to-do list right now?
Oh why not check your emails one more time.

Actu­al­ly planned on going to the gym?
Just one more scroll over insta­gram.

Feel­ing stuck with a dif­fi­cult task?
Yep, take your break and make sure you are updat­ed on aall your favourite web pages. For the 8th time of your day.

We all know that feel­ing when we spent too much time on the inter­net when actu­al­ly all we did is pro­cras­ti­nat­ing.
And although nowa­days we have more options and more oppor­tu­ni­ties to learn new things, meet new peo­ple and go on crazy adven­tures — basi­cal­ly to just DO stuff…
..it seems like we waste more time than ever.

The evo­lu­tion of tech­nol­o­gy has brought us to a point where we actu­al­ly need to force our­selves to take a step back — before we get so con­sumed, that liv­ing like a human machine becomes a norm.
(And who knows how the future will look like…“some peo­ple“ out there are per­haps slow­ly adapt­ing us to that real­i­ty..).

And since all these apps and social media chan­nels play around with our psy­chol­o­gy, it´s hard to resist their temp­ta­tion.

They con­trol our emo­tions aka US. Through a small screen.

Any time we pick up our phone we get a small rush of dopamine. Some­thing new, excit­ing and unpre­dictable is always around the cor­ner and that antic­i­pa­tion makes us want it more.
Social Media, cig­a­rettes, alco­hol, food, drugs, COFFEE bla bla bla – Any­thing that releas­es one or both of these two chem­i­cals, dopamine and oxy­tocin, has the pow­er over how we feel and act.

They are tru­ly a bless­ing and curse at the same time.

Awe­some.


Know­ing that, you can make it to your advan­tage.
Or dis­ad­van­tage.

Like I said before, we need to put an extra effort into not let­ting these devices con­sume us too much, oth­er­wise it gets hard­er and hard­er to dis­en­gage, even for a cou­ple of hours.

Because one day, who knows, your body con­fus­es real human con­nec­tion with grab­bing your phone and klick­ing and swip­ing and tex­ting in order to sat­is­fy this human need.
And in this process we slow­ly for­get what liv­ing a human life actu­al­ly feels like.

Just like we don´t know the real taste of an apple any­more.

So yea…being more „con­nect­ed“ than ever leads to los­ing con­nec­tion to our­selves and oth­ers and we are not even aware of it.


Now what?

Seems like the solu­tion lies in the oppo­site:

dis­con­nect in order to con­nect.

Prac­tise how being con­nect­ed (to your­self and oth­ers) actu­al­ly feels like. And do that more often.

Start by leav­ing all tech devices aside while eat­ing and actu­al­ly con­nect with the food on your plate.

If you are not used to it..

..your body will prob­a­bly be veeery con­fused and per­ceive it as feel­ing dis­con­nect­ed.

When in fact, detach­ing is the first step to re-con­nec­tion.


So go…connect with your broc­coli.